On a manual transmission, as you put the car into gear, you first push the clutch so that the engine is no longer connected to one of the gears (the other gear is connected to the tires). When the two gears meet, the gears can quickly mesh together because one of the gears is connected to nothing.
If you do what is called "slam shifting" and force the car into gear without pressing the clutch, the gear is still connected to the engine, so for it to mesh with the other gear (the one connected to the tires), not only does the gear need to change rotation speed, but the engine does, too. This does not happen easily, and this puts a lot of wear on the gears.
An automatic transmission automatically engages the clutch and automatically shifts the gears. Some automatics can be manually controlled, so you tell the transmission which gear to go into, and the transmission still automatically handles the clutch. You are electronically telling the transmission to shift gears. You aren't physically moving the gears with a lever (the gear shift).
If you were to physically move the gears (a true manual), the transmission wouldn't know when to activate the clutch for you.
There are also cars that use a continuously variable gear, so the gear can change its gearing ratio without switching to a different gear, so no clutch is needed.
So, buy an automatic, or buy an auotmatic that can be manually controlled. It goes by different trade names. Porsche calls it Tiptronics.